Truth will Out!

We’ve been struggling with something of late …

How to speak completely authentically from our hearts without compromising our standards and values!

If you know us, that might sound odd to you, because it’s not like we’re hiding and don’t show our faces!

But we are aware that we could speak our truths stronger still.

So why haven’t we done that fully?

Honestly, because we’ve been afraid people would get pissed off at us! And “people” could be YOU right now!

We once had a coach who said, “I don’t give a shit if you like me!”
She’s talking to us, her clients!

She’d say, “It’s not my job to make you like me! It’s only my job to help you achieve your goal, that’s all I care about!”

At the time, that seemed pretty harsh to us. You know, we’re relationship coaches, we protect relationships and do our very best not to burn bridges.

More and more, however, we see the point she was making (even if we might never express ourselves like that).

And that’s what we’re afraid of.

That if we speak the full extent of what we know to be true, you’ll think we don’t care about you, that we’re bad people. You’ll think we’re jerks and go away!

But truth will out, and we are deciding to jump, risk, and trust that it’ll all work out, and that those who are inspired by our message will come along for a powerful ride of love.

And those who don’t see things our way … we wish them luck finding what they’re looking for!

So what would we say if were saying it all with no fear of not being liked?

Relationships are meant to be fun and easy, and to support you and your partner to be your very best, in all aspects of living!
Romantic couple outdoors

And if your relationship is NOT that, that means other parts of your life aren’t great either! And if that’s the case, do something about it! Quit suffering in safe settling.

Quit taking crap from yourself or your partner about why it’s not being better already. Quit blaming ANYONE, including your partner, for all the breakdowns.

Start using your love life for a much bigger purpose than filling your needs for safety and physical affection. Start using your relationships to grow yourself as a human being!

And stop accepting ANY excuses you can come up with that justify your current predicaments.

Just like we choose to take the risk and speak more and more boldly, we hope it’ll inspire you to take a risk too! Speak the truth about where you’re settling for less than full-blown love, fun, and powerful growth.

Dare to say to your partner, “Hey, we’re not as happy as we could be”, and vow to do whatever it takes to put you on an upward spiral in your life! Make a bold move!

Take a training with us, or with someone else who’ll stretch you beyond your current limits.

And please don’t fool yourself into thinking your relationship is “allright”, when it really isn’t. You know, if you think “allright” and “fine” is good enough, then you might be one of the people we can’t help.

We decided a long time ago that “allright”, which is the same as mediocre and settling, was not going to be good enough, ever! I’ve already spent enough years wading through oatmeal … bllllllllllpppppppprrrrrrrr! Grey, uniform lukewarm mediocrity!

How do you know if you’re settling?

If you accept “things as they are” even when it doesn’t feel great
If you don’t talk to your partner about anything other than logistics
If you get angry a lot
If you’re not sleeping together, and having wonderful sex
If you’re avoiding each other

If you don’t feel a tingle when you connect eye to eye.
If you’re just not listening to that little voice saying, “Somethings gotta change”

If you’re sick of being alone
If you’re not enjoying yourself while you explore new relationships!
If it’s hard for you to get out and put yourself out
If you feel love and touch deprived

If you weren’t settling … if you didn’t accept “alright” as good enough, and if you didn’t care what anyone thought, what would your relationship life look like?

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