Answer Is In The Future

We all have questions we would love answers for. Man standing with a question mark board

• What is my passion?
• Is this the one?
• Should I buy this?
• Where did I put my keys?
• Are my children going to turn out?
• Why does my knee hurt?
• Should I stay in this relationship?
• When and how will I die?
• What will happen to the earth with global warming?

From the mundane to the global, there are questions that plague us.

We are often immobilized by our questions. Many of us believe that we must know the answer first in order to know what action to take, lest we make a wrong move and end up where we don’t want to go.

We don’t want to make a bad choice, so we make no choice at all. We stay stuck. Take no action.

In our life, love and relationship work, we often see people in pain about whether to leave or stay in a relationship. They endlessly ruminate and process about the pros and cons. They threaten to leave, but stay, and get nowhere.


Because. The answer is in the future.

The answers to many of our questions are not knowable or seeable from where we stand now. More movement and life experience are required to reveal additional information and open new possibilities that will ultimately tell us what we want to know.

It is in the course of living, that answers come to us. They reveal themselves to us as we move. They are not figured out in advance statically by our heads, but experienced in our bodies through the course of living.

A boat that is not in motion cannot shift direction when steered. But in motion, the tiniest shift of the rudder can alter its course.

The same is true for us in life.

When we take action, any action, something new is revealed that will highlight the next action to take, and so on and so on. It is only in retrospect, that you can then say, “This is my passion”. “This is the one.” “Here are my keys.”

So we say, as long as it is a question about whether to stay or leave a relationship, choose the most loving actions you can think of to take. Be the best partner you can be. Assume that person is the PERFECT person for you to practice love with. At some point, as you do so, the answer of whether to say or go will become CRYSTAL clear.

I am reminded of that quote by Alfred D’Souza: “For a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin — real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.

This perspective has helped me to see there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So treasure every moment you have and remember that time waits for no one. Happiness is a journey, not a destination.”
Move. Decide something. Take any action. Follow your inspiration. Do what makes you feel good. And trust, that the answers to every question you have will be revealed along the way.

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