The Power of Creation and The Law of Attraction in Relationships

Every day we are creating. Every minute we are presented with an opportunity to intentionally choose where to put our attention and focus. Why does that matter? Because what we focus on we get more of…

In the beginning of relationship, we focus on what we love about our partners. We focus on and bring out the best in each other. We delight in the pleasures and joys. We appreciate the little things and take time to acknowledge them. We expect, observe and speak the positive aspects of our partner with such overflowing abundance that we scarcely notice the flaws and breakdowns.

Over time, our attention narrows to what we don’t like and don’t want in our relationship and partners. In severe cases, we don’t see the beauty and loveliness of our partners at all anymore. We don’t feel good, and in an effort to get back to that blissful in-love state, we complain and yell and beg and withdraw as we try to articulate what is missing and desired. Our lack of relationship training keeps us ineptly reinforcing painful patterns, rather than producing our positive desired results.

How can we use the law of attraction and the art of creation and to make changes in our relationship?
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What they have proven in quantum physics, is that we are continually interfacing with and changing reality with our expectations and observations. There is no way anything just “is”. This “observer effect” is always at play in our lives and relationships. We are determining what shows up in our world by what we expect to see and experience minute by minute.

How that relates to us in relationship, is that there is no way we just “are”. There is no way your partner just “is” and there is no way you just “are” either. We are potentiality in motion. Who we are in relationship is who we co-create ourselves to be with our intention and focus.

What that means practically is that we can consciously create ourselves to be who ever we want. We can consciously create a great relationship where we are passionate and happy and intimate and sexual and fun, or we can by default, unconsciously create shut down, unhappiness, arguments, disappointment, separation, loneliness and pain. We get to choose. Every new minute is an opportunity to newly choose – do I reinforce creating what I don’t like and don’t want with my attention, or do I create more of what I DO want? A successful relationship is merely a series of positive choices by both parties strung together over time.

But how do you shift your attention to something good when things are bad between the two of you? How do you begin creating what you want instead of what you don’t want with your partner?

There are many steps to this process, too many to include here. But I will say, that the first step is to clarify for yourself what you want. Your desires are the seeds of creation and very important to declare so you know what to nourish and grow on your relationship path. Take time to write out your best vision of what you want. Take your complaints and problems and upsets – your “don’t wants” – and turn them into “do wants”. Feel the delightful excitement of imagining your desired outcome.

Very important. Write your vision in the present tense. “We listen to each other. We enjoy being together. We appreciate each other every day….”

Knowing what you want is the first step to taking charge in the transformation of your relationship.

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