Relationships Shouldn’t Be So Hard (and don’t actually need to be)

FOR A LOT OF GUYS, intimate relationships are hard work!

It’s uncomfortable, way too emotional, and you’d rather just not deal with it at all, and hope it’ll work itself out. After all, she normally returns to her senses after a while. Right? read more

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Not Enough

“I am not enough.”

“I am not supported.” “No one loves me.” “I am too much.”

We all have some negative self-talk that lives in us.

Almost every single person will tell you when they’re being deeply honest, that they don’t feel good enough or loved for who they are. These negative messages plague our daily lives and mess up our careers and relationships. read more

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He Wanted to Buy a Boat. She Didn’t.

He wanted to buy a boat. She didn’t.

She preferred saving the little bit of money they had left over every month until they had enough saved up before buying something extravagant like a boat. He didn’t want to wait. He pictured holidays camping, fishing, and skiing with his kids – all of which in his mind required a boat. They disagreed. They fought. They went round and round. read more

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When You Just Can’t Agree

She wanted an open relationship, but he didn’t. After months of endless processing, he finally relented. Reluctantly, he allowed her to date others, and at some point, finally went out on a date of his own. He fell in love with someone else. She freaked out. Now she wants monogamy and he wants an open relationship. They have switched positions. read more

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The Closer We Get, the Flatter We Feel

“Intimacy Kills Passion!”

Experts have discovered that not all couples end relationships because they are unhappy and miserable. Many actually leave perfectly happy, intimate, loving relationships that are working.

Why? Why would anyone leave a good relationship? read more

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Relationships in the Digital Age: What Really Matters?

Last night, my daughter asked me to rub her back. I noticed myself hesitate. My addiction to my phone took over – I wanted to keep doing emails, reading Facebook news, and beating people I don’t even know at Scrabble. I had to remind myself that my relationship with my daughter was more important than distracting myself with my phone. I made myself put it down and a sweet interaction and conversation ensued as she laid on the floor of our living room in the dim quiet light while I massaged her aches away. read more

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Wanna Scream? Put Yourself First!

A mother of three recently confessed to me in private, “I just don’t have it in me to work on my relationship or give to my husband. I feel so depleted and spent. My heart is shut down. I go from work to taking care of our kids and back to work again. I am over the top done. I swear, if he asks me for one more thing, I am going to scream.” read more

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Seeing Through the Eyes of Love

Eva, a woman who attended our Give Yourself to Love weekend, said after the first day, “I made love with God last night. The only difference with the man in my bed, was me!”

Another woman on the verge of divorce said, “After the first four hours this weekend, I got everything I wanted. We are back in love with each other. It’s like night and day. He hasn’t been affectionate with me for 8 years. He couldn’t keep his hands off of me this weekend. Something really opened up in him and healed him this weekend.” read more

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“I’m Afraid of Her Anger”


In preparation for the upcoming men’s retreat, I’ve been talking a lot lately about how we as men lose our power with women.

After the last blog post I put out, Chris sent me this email about his girlfriend: read more

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Men Lose Their Power With Women, Part 2

Darkside

Last week, I sent out a video about men losing power with women (here ).

Definitely struck a nerve. The day after, Brian sent me this email …

“Wow, what timing! I was just telling a friend of mine, “I want my power back!” Just like in your video, we talked about exposing my vulnerable spots and my emotions to her. read more

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